How about talking through a controversial topic to get to a point where it’s not controversial anymore? I might have a solution that will give you peace of mind around the question of whether your kid should get a smartphone or not if you’re right in the middle of the dilemma. I’ll tell you all about it.
Why Is This Decision So Dreadful?
You’re probably pondering this idea without jumping straight into it because you see there are both advantages and disadvantages of a smartphone. That’s absolutely the case though, you won’t get to a point where there are no longer disadvantages of a smart device in the hands of a child.
But you can minimize the risks and maximize its benefits in a secure way so your child gets all the learning resources, interconnectivity and fun out of it in a manageable way. You just have to implement 3 strategies in your household:
The 3 Strategies
1. Safety First: Setting Up Kid-Friendly Devices
Let me get this out of the way: the smartphone isn’t dangerous. The Internet is. Once you’ve decided that you’re buying that phone for your child, you have to assess what for. From there we can set it up safely.
Whether it’s for educational purposes, to keep in touch or for fun, there are two levels of securing a smartphone. If it’s enough to have a phone without the “smart”, so a plain cellphone or a device with offline apps will do for a while, always choose that option. Don’t forget to turn the Internet access off once you’ve downloaded the apps and resources they need.
If your child requires Internet access, you’ll also need the two last steps of the list to secure their electronics:
Enable Parental Controls: Most smartphones offer built-in parental control features that allow parents to restrict access to certain apps, websites, and content. Enable these controls and customize settings according to your child’s age and maturity level. You can also consider installing third-party parental control apps for additional features and functionality such as filtering web content, monitoring app usage, tracking location, and receiving alerts about potentially harmful online activities.
Set Up Screen Time Limits: Use the screen time management features available on the smartphone to set daily time limits for app usage and device usage. This helps prevent excessive screen time and promotes healthy digital habits.
Create Strong Passwords/PINs: Ensure that the smartphone is protected with a strong password or PIN code to prevent unauthorized access. Avoid using easily guessable passwords and regularly update them for added security.
Keep Software Updated: Regularly check for and install software updates on the smartphone, including operating system updates and app updates. Updates often contain security patches and bug fixes that help protect against vulnerabilities and exploits.
Review App Permissions: Periodically review the permissions granted to apps installed on the smartphone and revoke unnecessary permissions that may compromise privacy or security. Be wary of apps that request access to sensitive information or features without valid reasons.
Monitor Online Activity: Regularly review your child’s online activity and app usage to ensure they are using the smartphone safely and responsibly. Look out for any signs of concerning behaviour or interactions and address them promptly.
Enable Location Tracking (Optional): You might want to enable location tracking features on the smartphone to keep tabs on your child’s whereabouts. This can be useful for ensuring their safety and knowing their location in case of emergencies. As a cybersecurity expert, though, I have some important notes to consider before you turn location tracking on.
2. Digital Literacy: From Reckless Clicks to Wise Exploration
It isn’t enough to set their phone up safely, though. They will have to be mature enough to operate them. This starts with how and what you teach them. Here are some helpful ideas on that matter:
Talk With Your Child: Have open and honest conversations with your child about the importance of internet safety and responsible device usage. Teach them how to recognize and avoid online dangers such as cyberbullying, inappropriate content, and online predators.
Show them the proper use: How they use their phones starts with us, their parents. Teach them through principle and show them how the smartphone works before giving it to them. Go through settings, where they find the most important features, how to start an emergency call with the shortcuts and so on…
Establish Family Rules: Establish clear rules and guidelines for smartphone usage within the family, including when and where devices can be used, appropriate content and behaviour online, and consequences for violating rules. Encourage open communication and mutual respect.
Note, that after a certain age, your kid will need privacy on their phone as well. I would say, at this point, they should be able to assess online risks and react appropriately. If you start educating them at an early age, you will be more relaxed to know you don’t need to double-check them at all times but can rely on what they’ve learned from you. This is not to say they should get a phone earlier! But talking about these topics is a must in 2024. Even if only their friends have them.
3. Game On: Making Devices Engaging and Enjoyable
I understand that the thought of navigating the digital landscape with your child can be scary, and as you become more informed, the idea of allowing them access to a smartphone might seem less appealing. However, by taking the time to establish clear rules, implement safety measures, and educate your child about responsible device usage, you can reap the benefits of technology.
Remember, smartphones are called “smart” for a reason: When your child has access to a smartphone, they can explore a world of knowledge right at their fingertips. From educational apps and online resources to interactive learning games, there are countless opportunities for intellectual growth and development. Additionally, smartphones allow children to stay connected with friends and family, providing a sense of companionship and support, especially during times of solitude.
Let’s not forget about the fun part either – games! Digital games, when enjoyed in moderation, can actually be beneficial for children. There are certain games designed to help develop valuable skills such as problem-solving, critical thinking, and creativity. Personally, I can attest to the power of digital games in learning; I achieved a high level of proficiency in English by playing online games and engaging in conversations with other players.
Conclusion
I know the title may have hooked you on, but ultimately, the decision is yours to make, and no one else’s. After all, as parents, we face numerous challenging decisions each day, and trusting your instincts is key. However, I hope that the three strategies I’ve outlined in this article can assist you in securing the device should you decide to purchase it. If you require further assistance with executing this setup, please let me know—I’m currently working on a more in-depth guide that may be of help to you!